The truth is we all need some ego boosting, some more than others but we don't decide our needs, or the things that make us happy. I don't believe that anyone should feel guilty. If your not with someone who does any of the things that you enjoy, what are you doing there. The longer you stay in a relationship that isn't making you happy** the longer you're holding yourself back from being happy. We've all done it. and we have nobody to blame but ourselves.
**For the record, every couple has arguments, fights, everyone (men and women) fuck up or make mistakes. this doesn't mean that they are not happy. Assess if your actually happy or not based on your own relationship and situation. I find its healthy to reassess from time to time. I like to do it around Christmas time. Reevaluate your life. think about where the stress factors are in your life. what parts are the most fun for you, what parts make you feel good about yourself. Everyone needs a balance of these things. I like to call these, "The Good, The Bad and the Necessary"**
The beauty of this world is how amazingly unique every single thing is. I will vouch (and so will my boyfriend) that there is not a single person like me on this planet. So if there is nobody like me (which i take great pride in), how can I expect anyone to anticipate my needs?
How can I be upset, mad, or hurt because someone isn't doing something, when they are completely unaware I want them to do it?
When you think about it, it's utterly foolish. Bottom Line: if there is someone in your life that means a lot to you take ten minutes each day to build them up. tell her she looks pretty, or tell him that his butt looks amazing in those jeans (ladies, the secret is out. they know we're pigs too. and everyone loves a compliment. Not just women!)
As we go along in our relationships we kind of forget who it is we are really seeing. We may think we know the person, but people change because change is constant. I think we forget this from time to time and assume we know what they are thinking or what they want. Constant communication seems to be the obvious, and it is! Exploring new adventures together, seeing what turns the cranks.
ReplyDeleteYou're not the only one who gets a little upset when someone isn't doing something and is unaware you want them to do it! I think that comes along with any long term relationship. I've made dumb ass mistakes and was severely unhappy in previous relations.
I never understood or even acknowledged the important factors in a relationship. Honesty (like everyone keeps saying haha) is so damn key. Being romantic has always been hard for me, but once I stepped over that line BAM, it felt great. It helps keep the flame. Sometimes I feel romantic by doing the dishes hahah... -.-''
The number one thing I found that made me completely miserable in the past and made me hate life was the fact I couldn't BE MYSELF. We should ask ourselves if we are spreading our wings as far as they can go, if we feel a part of the universe and can carry on life with ease and inner freedom.
Uhh. Yes. Little bit of a rant, not sure if it makes sense. I would proof read but I have to pee.
haha that was quite a rant. Thank you for taking the time to read my thoughts and thank you so much for your contribution, please feel free to share my blog with friends who may be interested
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