10 commitments

Ok this is going to start out as a rant...and hopefully turn into something useful...hopefully...


Why are we in such a hurry to claim someone and establish history, roots and set it in stone? Do any of those things provide us with security? taking those actions seems to give the impression of insecurity. 

SIDE BAR: Like a guy who posts all over his girlfriend's Facebook a million times a day to mark his territory. If you can't trust someone to NOT flirt, or put an end to any attempted flirting, find someone you can. You look just as pathetic and insecure as if you showed up at her job and urinated on her, as is often customary for uncivilized creatures. please respect yourself. Most of the bad in the entire world is a vicious cycle of insecurity, intolerance, and control. Be smarter than that. end rant.

This just goes back to insecurity. Might it be that we feel more secure knowing that even if we aren't good enough, there will be something to keep that person. That obligation is like insurance, so we know that we have something that we can trust to be there no matter what. 
To be treated the way we want. we must show others how we want to be treated.
If that's the case we are overlooking a huge stipulation. Premiums. if one wants insurance one must pay premiums. In other words, If we want the reassurance of knowing someone will always be there, we need to give the reassurance that we enjoy the life we have. That we are happy, satisfied, and fulfilled by our partner.

not surprisingly at all, it simply comes back to the good old Golden Rule: Do to others as you would have them do to you