I don't understand how the concept of avoiding responsibility is anything but disgusting and pathetic. If you don't want to take responsibility for something that you've done, it is obviously because
YOU KNOW ITS A SHITTY THING TO DO,
if your actions are something that you don't want anyone to know you're doing, then why do it?!
I'm not saying we should all be in church or living this amazing morally sound path. humans by our very nature are flawed. We all make mistakes, but taking responsibility for those mistakes is how we learn, grow and progress as a species. Taking any accountability out of the equation causes us to regress and become stagnant. I have such a bleak outlook on my generation, and the ones that follow us.
All the good found in the invention of the magical internet and our global village is sadly far outweighed by the negativity that comes from lacking the moral fiber, intelligence and basic humanity necessary to utilize it in the most efficient way.
I added an app called Honesty Box to my Facebook when I was in University. I thought this was an amazing tool. There were people that I had a lo of respect and admiration for and I liked that I could let people know how awesome they were without it being about me. So if i knew someone in my class was having a bad day, I'l write an anonymous message to show them that someone noticed how hard they worked, or what a good person they were. But all anyone else used it for was to hate on people. I was so disappointed at the mean and hateful messages left for me. Nothing good or positive just people being needlessly rude, or idiot guys trying to be sketchy (I was in a relationship at the time, but they didn't seem to be bothered by that)
years later I added the app again, to try once more as an adult. THIS time the guy I was dating at the time tried using it to bait me. sending me messages about me being hot, and saying how it was too bad I had a boyfriend. Trying to set me up, or catch me doing something that I've never done in my life. Granted, that person had a lot of issues and I still wonder about him today and if he is any happier, but people come into your life, and leave again, for a reason. So I choose to chalk it up to an awful, awful experience that taught me a lot in a very short year.
I guess the point of this rant is to express how bleak our future is if we continue to use anonymity as a tool for negativity, to feed insecurity, instead of building others up or doing good. No actions are justifiable if they hurt someone else, and your not willing to man up and admit responsibility, and It's not really a good deed if your not willing to do it without getting credit.
I made the mistake once of having a Formspring honesty box. I had to take it down for quite some time because people were using it to call me to the dirt. Anonymity gives people a false sense of protection and entitlement - like they can express opinion without consequence. I've never used an honesty box to share anything negative about someone. People have wronged me in the past, but I never would hide behind anonymity to get even with them. That's how cyber bullying starts - people feel invincible and don't realize how their words can effect another. Sadly, maturity doesn't come with age. Many adults still do their fair share of anonymous bashing.
ReplyDeleteIts really so sad. I tried formspring and now use ask.fm for the sake of this blog. And it serves a purpose, as a lot of young girls ask me questions they'd be embarassed to talk to a parent or anyone about face to face. But I still get hate from it. Just yesterday I got an accusation regarding my boyfriend and his fidelity. Something that I know I don't need to question. But I still find myself very fruserated by the choices people make and the things they choose to do and say to people they don't even know. Like anything else, the insecure, attention starved, and intimidated are the ones who make themselves known, making them seem like the majority, when really their just the ones who are the most unhappy.
DeleteI remind myself that I shouldn't feel sad about hateful messages. Instead, I feel sad for the person who sent it. It's a sin that they waste their time trying to bring others down. I assume it's because they feel sour that your life keeps getting better and want to get you down to their level. I honestly wish that people would put their energy into productivity. Why can't they do something creative? Volunteer at the SPCA? Collect donations for a charity?
DeleteThere is so much negativity in the world. I just wish people would start seeing positive things. Why can't we all just tell each other how beautiful they are? (And I know, sometimes I'm a hypocrite.)
I live in a dream world, if you can't tell.
Well we're all flawed. We all have moments of negativity and we all make mistakes. Sometimes people break trust and it takes time and work to build it back. We all say and do things that we wish we hadn't and the hardest thing to do is just admit it, apologize and move on. Being the bigger person is tough. And lots of people simply can't do it. So we should consider it a gift that we at least understand why people do the things they do. Understanding and learning are the only tools for eliminating fear and insecurity. And those two things are (in my opinion) the root of all evil.
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