Cause and Affections

While I will never understand why people betray the people that they say they love, I can keep in perspective the fact that this specific event was nothing more than a teen boy working on his best angle at getting laid. I'm a very firm believer that we must always ask why. Understanding is the only way we grow or learn at all. and everything has a cause and an effect. The best part is she never had sex with him until like 4 years later, after they broke up. That is just Karma, plain and simple

When I was in high school I had a best friend and a boyfriend. After a couple weeks of us dating, they quickly decided that they would much rather spend their time alone together. without me. She was an (initially) close friend who was a very insecure, attention starve girl. It was such a sad thing. A beautiful, optimistic, smart girl. Well behaved and respectful. Her parents didn't want to be parents anymore, She had a brother who was 10 years older than her, and when he went off to college, they decided they were moving, having stayed for the brother to graduate with his class, and uprooting Brita after the 10th grade and allowing her to couch surf between their friends houses in my hometown, often being in the house all by herself for days at a time, While they moved a few towns over to some out-port town a few hours away. This was an event that always stuck with me. But it occurs to me now that if I was the kind of person who he wanted to be with, then he wouldn't have ended it. 
He was an older, underachieving type. Failing out of high school due in large part to absentee parents and too much free time. What is it about a plain and simple loser that we find so appealing? As if he's more legit because he doesn't treat me well. ugh...women...what is the matter with us?

Brita was someone that had a tragic lack of morals, paired with the time and ability to chase him around and be impressed with every little comment he made. And he loved the attention, So it worked out for both of them.When we broke up a friend of mine came forward to admit that (lets call him Subway Guy. it's more fitting than you even know.) had made comments, that week before about knowing I was a virgin and telling people he was going to be my first. I was so adorably clueless. That's what is so funny to me. All I cared about back then was my friends, and music, and hanging out. 
I had no interest in sex. the thought hadn't even entered my mind, and he'd already dumped me. Saved me a fair amount of grief more than likely. But as hindsight is always 20/20, The here and now through the eyes of a teenage girl is emotional and dramatic at the very best. I realize now that for girls the ages 13-17 are just to be fucking crazy. Completely out of your mind emotional and a total monster to any loved ones in your vicinity. I believe its a natural phase that we all have to go through. 

Let me take this opportunity to state, for the record, that I have never cheated on anyone. I can't express how disgusting and just plain unclassy that is. It's probably the only thing I legitimately hate in the world. Disloyalty is a character trait that doesn't go away or get changed. Someone who lies or betrays you're trust once, will probably do it again. There is no excuse for cheating. if someone isn't making you happy. that's your problem, so grow a pair and end it. Don't try to line up another girl before you break up. You're leaving baggage with both of those girls. So the next guy already hates you (If kids are involved, you'll probably be seeing him around.) and your newest prize knows she can't trust you cause if you cheated WITH HER, and she didn't care that you had a partner, neither of you can trust each other either. 

Also back to the kids thing...what is wrong with people? how are this many people having unprotected sex and getting pregnant "by mistake"? Read a book. Google it, whatever you have to do just be smarter!